Mastering the Illusion
…Not necessarily what you get. Perception is a complicated thing. Human perception is quite limited. We only have access to a very limited viewpoint that we filter through our own pain and experience. We can only see what people show us and we don’t have access to the thoughts and feelings that create what we see, no matter what people say to us, it’s still a limited perception. We don’t have access to and we can’t see all the other factors at play in our lives. There are many things happening around us that help to create our experience that we are completely oblivious to. We look through a very limited viewfinder on a daily basis and most of us don’t question that. We don’t question the limitations of our perception. We don’t question what we’re not seeing. We do, however, love to make lots of assumptions and project our pain all over the place based on those assumptions. That is just part of the fun of being human.
I didn’t realize how much my perspective was affected by my own pain. Have you ever considered that for yourself? When you look at your life and everything that’s happening around you, what do you see? Do you see pain? Do you just believe that things are the way you perceive them to be? Do you ever question whether your perception is telling you the truth or not? Do you ever question your judgment of the situation?
I unknowingly started on a path of questioning my perception of my past. That was how my journey began. I was looking for truth and I was questioning why things were the way they were. I was questioning how I’d ended up where I was at the time. I was questioning all the pain that I felt. I was questioning my perspective without realizing what I was doing.
I’m in a weird space in my life. Things are coming together. Life is changing. But the way it’s changing is offering me a challenge in terms of my perspective. Now remember, perspective is a choice and sometimes it results in a little bit of an internal battle to get to a place where you can be okay. I want to share with you the internal struggle I’m having and what that looks like. I also want to share with you how I duke that out with myself so that I land in a healthy place with it.
My goal when I started this healing journey 9 years ago was to “fix” the financial chaos I had created for myself. As the years have gone by it’s become apparent that we were going to need a new car. All the bills that went to collections still needed to be paid. There were things I needed for myself and so on. My goal was to correct all of that on my own through the work that I’m doing. Yeah, not so much.
Learning how to understand my experience has been a huge part of this process. Healing requires clarity and it means learning how to interpret the experience in a way that doesn’t cause pain. Here’s the thing - the truth doesn’t hurt. The truth is a neutral point in any experience.
Abraham-Hicks kind of skims over this idea a bit in what she talks about. She suggests that if it’s causing you pain there is something wrong. She’s right. But what’s the problem? Your perception of what’s happening. You see you can’t change the experience, it just is. You can change your perception of your experience though because that is the thing you have control over. How does this work in real life? Indulge me for a bit and I’ll give you a very real-time example of how I manage this in my own life.